i'm sorry, i just have to vent...

i was so excited to post but now that i'm in front of the laptop, i can't compose anything about things that matter to me because of something that is bothering me. and i know that some of our current clients read this blog and i'm not sure if it's wise to write about this here but i realize that this is my blog anyway and i would really, really like to vent here. isa pa, i know the people who read this naman are my friends who will not judge me.

we had a wedding in may (non-w@wie). ayoko namang i-assasinate ang character niya pero nainis talaga ako. she was nice naman to me personally so kahit na nakikita ko kung paano niya... no other term for this... alipustahin yung ibang tao, okay lang. she says she's OC pero ang dami talagang gulo ng preps niya. for one, she got her MUA 3 days before the wedding. she got her band 3 days before. her choir 2 days before. makakausap ko lang siya pag ako yung humahabol sa kanya. like 4 days before her wedding, i sat down with her and asked her for the names of her entourage, ni hindi niya mabigay sa akin. the day before her wedding, i went to UP Diliman to have her misalette photocopied. that misalette, i sent her that around 3 weeks before the wedding. four days before the wedding, i sat down with her to ask for the readings she has chosen, tapos inayos ko and ni-layout. pina-photocopy ko the morning of the day before her wedding. pagkatapos kong mapa-photocopy and mapa-collate, she called to tell me na may gusto siyang baguhin so i had to go back to UP to have it photocopied again. the afternoon of the day before her wedding, she called to tell me na mag-RSVP daw ako sa five other friends niya. grrrr talaga! ito ata yung pinakamadugong wedding namin. feeling ko baptism of fire. umiyak talaga ako sa stress tapos napabayaan ko pa yung ibang clients.

tapos the day of her wedding, the original call time for the MUA was 1030. i asked the MUA to come in at 930 para hindi kami ma-late kasi with 1030 as the call time, late kami since 2:00 yung wedding and tatlo yung me-makeup-an. and i told the bride that the people to be made up have to be at the hotel room by 9:30. okay na raw. the MUA came in at 900 am. would you believe the people to be made up came in at 1030? andun naman sila sa hotel pero lang, nag-iinarte! grrr talaga!

so na-late kami ng 1 hour because of that. when it was time for the bridal makeup, ang tagal pa bago siya umupo. pati yung MUA nainis na. pati yung mga photograhers nerbyos na. our team was supposed to leave for the church at 1230 to be able to coordinate with the church, the liturgical entourage, etc. we were able to leave at 1:20!!! 2pm yung kasal! eh di dumating kami dun just in time for the processional and super hirap ayusin nung lineup nila kasi matigas ulo ng mga entourage. pero since expected yun, okay lang naman.

the worst part was that one of the elder sisters of the bride was making us pakialam. kakainis kasi this is the same person who caused the delay in the makeup tapos hindi ko naman siya nakausap the whole time ng preps pero pagdating ng wedding, she was making pakialam the whole thing.

the mass started, okay na sana. the commentator was making rekalmo na kulang raw yung misalette na ginawa ko. sus! kulang kasi wala yung mga "please be seated", "please kneel", etc. eh ayaw ng mga priest na nakasulat ung mga yun as much as possible kasi dapat alam na yun ng commentator.

to top it all, the MUA was making us singil P7500 kasi hindi pa siya bayad and it's time for him to go. and kasi the bride explicitly told us na bayad na raw yung MUA so mejo inaway pa ako ng MUA sobra. inaaway na ako ng MUA sa likod habang nagma-mass. ito na po, time na for the readings and since hindi namin nakausap yung liturgical entourage because of the time constraint (3 kaming coordinators sa church but believe me, eksakto lang yun sa pag-ayos ng processional lineup, pag-distribute ng flowers, misalette, fans, pag-cue ng music, pag-guide sa altar, etc.) and the lector for the first reading went to the commentator's podium and dun nagbasa!!!! juice ko! nataranta ako pero nasa likod naman ako nun habang inaaway ng MUA (yung isang coordinator was with me, the other was taking care of the church paraphernalia and the offertory stuff). so in the end, dun nga sa commentator's podium nabasa yung 1st reading and responsorial psalm.

pictorial time came, nagalit sa akin yung isang ate at hinampas ako ng pamaypay kasi wala silang picture with the couple. dagdagan pa ng nagagalit yung photographers kasi pinapagalitan sila ng church at wala raw silang permit so iba-ban raw sila. haaaaay!

naiinis ako kasi i discussed all the details with the couple and super okay. tapos ang daming nakikialam. tapos ang daming bagay na hindi naman dapat naging problema pero naging problema kasi iba yung nasabi sa amin than what was going to happen, etc. nakakainis talaga. at nagsimula yan lahat kasi late nagsimula even with our repeated pangungulit sa mga tao na kelangan na mag-start.

reception came. okay naman. the band was given free hand to sing the songs they wanted. bride yung nagsabi nun. i personally think na ma-okay yung performance nung band but the bride heard this one song during teh cocktails na super nagalit siya at nagsisigaw. eh what can she expect? she gave the band the freedom to sing whatever songs they wanted eh.

tapos may studio pictorial na i didn't know was going to happen. bigla na lang sinabi. o sige, pinapunta ko dun yung isang coordinator to assist. yung kawawang coordinator nag-entertain ng isang guest na nagtanong sa kanya ng directions... nakita nung sister na pakialamera sinabi na yung coordinator daw namin walang ginawa kung hindi makipagdaldalan! juice naman! super bitchy family.

reception program... prayer na... free sitting so no idea kami kung san nakaupo yung mga tao... the person who was supposed to pray was nowhere to be found... hindi pala siya dumating... nagalit sa amin yung emcees...

klaro kami ng bride na walang speeches... the sister went to the emcees without my knowledge and asked them to call on this and that and this and that to speak. i allowed the first two and vetoed the rest but the sister went to the bride and told the bride na dapat magsalita lahat. the bride consented. tapos after the program nagalit yung bride sa akin kasi bakit raw ang daming nagsalita! ano ba?!

bouquet and garter toss... ang mayabang na emcee ayaw maniwala sa amin kung ano yung mechanics... nakialam pa! grrrr!!!!

sabi namin, yun yung wedding na na-feel naming alipin kami. super nakaka-degrade talaga. naawa ako sa buong team namin. the guests were mayabang. the members of the entourage were bitchy. the family members were just horrible, horrible people. buti na lang mabait yung captain waiter. :)

i was so stressed by that wedding that i got sick the day after.

so far, okay naman lahat ng weddings namin. our brides, we think, are happy with our performance. we have received very good reviews. but this one wedding really was enough to make me question why i'm doing what i'm doing. (btw, this wedding was our first may wedding. after this wedding, we had three more weddings, all them successful.) pero ganun talaga, may mga clients talagang bwisit sa buhay. i guess sa kaht saang field naman. yun lang. gusto ko lang talagang mag-vent kasi inis na inis ako. sabi nga namin, brides who are sabog during preps cannot be OC brides on the day. ang kapal niya naman! isa pa, brides who do not do their part (like give us the correct names of the entourage kaya may nagalit sa aming entourage dahil mali yung pangalan niya) cannot expect na ayos na ayos na ayos lahat kasi super unprepared din kami. ang nangyayari, hindi pa nagsisumula, kelangan na naming mag-troubleshoot. i'm sorry, hindi naman ako galit sa mga brides in general or sa mga clients namin, dito lang talaga sa taong ito.